It is very easy to get up each day and go through the motions, we can become routined in our habits and live life in a comfortable, easy existence. If your routines are purposeful for creating discipline to meet goals, that is great, but if they are keeping you in a rut, that’s not so great.
What if, you could live a life that feels fully aligned to who you are, what would that look like?
Too often we can fall into our lives without ever making a conscious choice to follow a path that we are genuinely connected to. We just take what, at the time, is the next logical step without challenging why. Then changing it, shifting direction seems too hard, we think about what that would mean, what the fall out would be, who we would hurt, what uncertainty would it create and we stick with the status quo.
I know I have certainly been guilty of staying in situations long past their use by date out of obligation, expectation, hope that things would change, sometimes pure stubbornness, and I’m sure I am not alone.
Sometimes the biggest obstacle holding us back from making changes, is fear. Fear of the unknown, if not this, then what? Fear of failure, what if I make all these changes, go through all this, and it doesn’t work? Fear of success, what will this all mean, if I do succeed, what doors will open up that I will need to step through, and am I up for it?
Now I am not proposing we all just walk away from everyone and everything we love on a fleeting whim and let others deal with the fallout. This is not a seagull manoeuvre, drop a shit bomb and fly off!
I am asking the question, what could you achieve if you weren’t scared of failure, of judgement or criticism, if you truly lived a life on purpose? What would that look like for you?
I am fully aware that when we begin walking down a path, we have people who we love, walk with us, we set up our life in a way that turning our backs and walking away isn’t seen as a viable option, for many reasons. Sometimes the conditions and structures we live with and within are also not of our making so again, dismantling them may not be possible. We may also love some aspects of our lives and given the opportunity would choose them over and over again.
What I propose is that we think about what we could do? What do we want to achieve? Who we want to be in the world? How you want to live your life?
Then start to make changes to create it. We only have one life to live and none of knows how long we have to live it. Do you want to spend your days living a life built from habit, expectation of others or apathy or live it being fully aligned to your purpose?
Start today, ask yourself, what do I want to be remembered for, what will be my legacy?
Make a plan to take a step in that direction, if you want to be known for kindness or generosity, be kind, be generous. If you want to be innovative, take a risk on an idea, put it out there and back yourself. If you want to be adventurous, try something new, book a trip. Whatever it is you want to create, you can take small steps towards creating it. Stop existing, start living!
Fear is temporary, regret is forever.